The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga

Ideas from one great book in 5 minutes

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Amit Verma
August 19, 2025

 The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga 

🐝 One Idea That Shifts You

Book #08 — You’re Not a Victim of the Past

📘 Inspired by: The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga
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🌱 Ideas from one great book in 5 minutes

🧭 Central Idea

You don’t need to be defined by your past, your trauma, or others' opinions.
This book introduces Adlerian psychology, a bold framework that says:

Your life is shaped by the meaning you choose now — not the experiences you’ve had.
You don’t heal by fixing your past.
You grow by choosing freedom in the present.
But freedom comes with risk: the risk of being disliked.

🎯 The Shift

You are not controlled by what happened.
You are controlled by what you believe.

People often use the past to excuse the present:

“I’m this way because of what happened.”

But Adler’s philosophy is opposite:

“I choose to live this way, and I use the past to justify it.”

Your life changes the moment you accept:
You are responsible for your direction — not your origin.

🌀 Visual Insight: The Circle of Freedom

   [Desire for Approval]
        ↓       ↑
[Live for Others] ← [Courage to Be Disliked]
        ↓
[Self-Compromise or Self-Expression?]

The more you seek approval, the less free you are.
The more courage you gain, the more yourself you become.

⚡ The Antidote

“Freedom is being disliked by others — and being okay with it.”

Let go of these illusions:

  • You need everyone to like you

  • You must fix your past to move forward

  • You’re stuck because of someone else

Replace them with this truth:
You are free the moment you accept the cost of freedom.

🛠 1-Minute Practice

Ask:
"What would I do differently if I didn’t fear being disliked?"

Then do a tiny version of that.
Speak. Act. Express.
Even if just once.

🧠 Quote to Keep

“You are not living to satisfy other people’s expectations.”
— Ichiro Kishimi

💡 Closing Thought

The past isn’t holding you.
It’s your grip on the story that needs to loosen.

📚 Other Books by Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga

  1. The Courage to Be Disliked

  2. The Courage to Be Happy

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